The scary thing about being the alcohol promotion girl, is that people in bar assumes I must be hot by endorsement. I am chosen to work because someone decided I am worthy of the Johnny Walker/ Jim Beam / Knob Creek shirt I am wearing, that they have complete faith in my ability to sell tequila / whisky shots to man who will buy the shots because I am giving them my attention, and women who will buy drinks because they want to be associated with me. When I put that shirt on, I represent the alcohol company who have contracted my agency, who have an agreement with the bar to approve of my hotness and ability to push booze.
As I stand in my heels and smile, I am not alone, as I carry with me imagines and reputations of every other girl who have stood in bars and sold drinks. I am part of the group now, the general population assumes, I am part of the mass that are considered to represent what the current standard of beauty is. Surely I must represent it if I am being paid to hang out in clubs and promote alcohol. If someone doesn’t agree with this newer information, surely they are outdated and must run an update patch in their beauty algorithm to include this new information that would incorporate my style of beauty. Because surely bars and alcohol promotion companies can’t possibly have got it wrong, can they? I cannot be walking around with the confidence and my Jim beam shirt, assuming drinks will be purchased if I am not truly worthy of that confidence, can I?
But do you understand it’s a cycle? Somewhere in a far fetched corner of the world another woman you and I may have never met made her way through beauty contest or the small screen. Someone far away in Hollywood or New York decided Sandra Oh is hot enough to play the girlfriend of an handsome doctor in “Grey‘s Anatomy,” or that Lucy Liu is very hot and have her play a hot girl on screen and then that becomes the new standard. These woman are not considered super attractive by traditional standards, but they are considered attractive now because their faces are in magazines and that’s what I see, that’s what you see and you realize these woman must be hot if they are getting TV spots and magazine shots. They defined the new standard of beauty, so those of us with less than large eyes and tall nose are finally cheered and cherished, because these woman paved the way to the new standard of what is considered hot. I am proud of these ladies because they re-defined beauty by daring to see themselves as beautiful despite whatever traditional view may voice. The world listened.
I may not get all the gigs I apply to, like everyone else I get a fraction of what I apply to. And I know it’s not all about looks, I know it’s about my reliability and punctuality and my ability to jump in last minute as much as anything else. But all roads are paved slowly, there need to be a pioneer, and I help build a new road by paving the path just a little bit wider, pushing another small rock off the mountain. As I stand there, fully confident and beaming I know I am beautiful, because I choose to define beauty with the things that makes me unique.
Look at the world to validate your beauty, validate that you fit into an existing mold and and it may never happen, beauty is re-defined when one stands confidently and speaks through posture and gesture that the soul inside this body believe it is beautiful. Our hearts open as we are in that moment touched to add new type of beauty to our existing knowledge. We are powerful because each of us has the opportunity to create this change, whether it’s when we step out to the world in our most flattering composition, or when we let the world be moved by our ability to create change and progres. Step forward and embrace this power, have you already manifest the power to show the world that you too, are beautiful.